It wasn't the material gifts that Mom and Dad gave me that really made an impact on me. It was the life lessons that I consider to be the greatest gift from them. One of the most powerful things the Baptist Rabbi taught me was the need to practice discernment.
Being the primary caregiver for both of my parents, I have had to use discernment on many occasions as we determine next steps after a doctor's advice. A year ago, a lung specialist discouraged us from considering a feeding tube for my Dad, stating research doesn't indicate feeding tubes prevent pneumonia in patients who aspirate. A year later, we would say a feeding tube was the best thing we could have done for Dad!
In the world of social media, many have developed their own personal agendas in which they attempt to push upon the rest of us through Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. Many in society have become very rigid in their beliefs and shun those who do not hold parallel views.
Here is what the wisest man I know would have to say:
- The longer he lives, the more questions he has. Rarely are tough issues black and white. Both sides tend to have advantages and disadvantages.
- Beware of people or organizations that demand you hold exact views as them.
- We must have tolerance for diverse views. The truth is that most of us are a product of our foundational circle and experiences.
- Respectfully question. It is through productive conflict that we grow as individuals.
- Use discernment to know when to speak and when to remain quiet.
The reality is....when all is said and done, ALL of us will have some things right and a lot of things wrong. The Baptist Rabbi says he has lots of questions when he gets to heaven!! As humans, we try to bring God down to our level and put widely complex ideas in a simple box so we can comprehend them. There is a great deal to learn from other people, but we must use discernment in situations and not allow the world to put our actions and beliefs in their own individual box.
This world is complex - full of many viewpoints and ideas. May we show tolerance towards others, but use discernment with the abundance of information that bombards us from all angles. I know there are times that I do this better than others.
On this Christmas Eve, I am thankful that my Mom and Dad taught me the complexity of a baby being born in a stable and how He ultimately saved the world. I am also thankful that they taught me the importance of using discernment in these unpredictable times.
May each of you be blessed with peace and discernment this Christmas season. God bless.
